I used to tell women graduate students, half-seriously, that the role of slightly rebellious daughter was one of the better roles for women living in patriarchy.
What can I do to see Reality as it is?" The master smiled and said, "I have good news and bad news for you, my friend. " "What's the bad news?" "There's nothing you can do to see it is a gift. " "And what's the good news?" "There's nothing you can do to see it is a gift.