I was born an ugly duckling due to my mother's ill health. She wasn't supposed to be pregnant, there were all kinds of complications, she couldn't survive a cesarean section etc. She said, "They didn't hand me a child, they handed me a purple melon. " I heard that when I had grown up and had no idea of the whole story because the family album had pictures of a covered carriage and my mother smiling so I assumed I was asleep.
It's up to the man to not be offended when she tells him what she needs. He shouldn't say, "I know that!" And he shouldn't say, "The woman that I had before you had ten orgasms without her telling me anything!"