Gretchen Craft Rubin (born December 14, 1965) is an American author, blogger and speaker.
I'm a person who's fine saying 'No. ' I like saying to myself, "no gossiping," "no nagging. "
One of the best ways to make yourself happy in the present is to recall happy times from the past. Photos are a great memory-prompt, and because we tend to take photos of happy occasions, they weight our memories to the good.
One of the most important lessons of childhood is discovering what you like to do.
When I thought about why I was sometimes reluctant to push myself, I realized that it was because I was afraid of failure - but in order to have more success, I needed to be willing to accept more failure.
No one regrets having changed a lightbulb.
Reading makes me want to write my own books, and just trying to understand what I see in the world around me makes me want to figure things out.
A 'treat' is different from a 'reward', which must be justified or earned. A treat is a small pleasure or indulgence that we give to ourselves just because we want it. Treats give us greater vitality, which boosts self-control, which helps us maintain our healthy habits.
[S]tudies show that one of the best ways to lift your mood is to engineer an easy success, such as tackling a long-delayed chore.
Reading makes me happy.
Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good. Lower the bar. Actually spending ten minutes clearing off one shelf is better than fantasizing about spending a weekend cleaning out the basement.
Be a storehouse of happy memories.
Outer order contributes to inner calm.
The thing that inspires me most is reading and just observing the people around me. I think those are the two things that make me want to write.
One of the things that surprised me the most is how often we assume that because something's fun for someone else, it makes somebody else happy, it will make us happy.
Money. It's a good servant but a bad master.
There's a kind of magical thinking about these kinds of things. Throw away those bad photos before the "magic" attaches to them, so the good ones stand out.
I realize that in a happy life, making your bed should play a very small part, I don't know why this is so helpful to people getting started on a happiness project, but for some reason, making your bed - it's concrete, it's manageable. There's a big difference between having a bed that's unmade and a bed that's made. That little bit of outer order in people's lives seem to help them get started. So, that's a very small thing that you can do.
The number one resolution that people mention to me as something that's made them happier is - to my surprise - making the bed.
Act the way you WANT to feel.
Sometimes I think it's easier to think about being happier, for what ever that means to you then worrying about what is happiness and what would life be if I finally achieved this ultimate happiness?