Gretchen Craft Rubin (born December 14, 1965) is an American author, blogger and speaker.
There's also something about your bed; it's sort of a symbol of yourself and of your marriage, if you're married. Making your bed doesn't seem to be an important thing in a happy life, and yet it can be that tiny foothold into a more orderly life that sometimes people need.
We are happy when we are growing.
Nature is impersonal, awe-inspiring, elegant, eternal. It's geometrically perfect. It's tiny and gigantic. You can travel far to be in a beautiful natural setting, or you can observe it in your backyard - or, in my case, in the trees lining New York City sidewalks, or in the clouds above skyscrapers.
The most reliable predictor of not being lonely is the amount of contact with women. Time spent with men doesn't make a difference.
Money. It's a good servant but a bad master.
You really have to begin by figuring out what kind of person you are. The tip is to really take a look at yourself.
Happiness: "You Bring Your Own Weather To The Picnic. "
We need to have intimate, enduring bonds; we need to be able to confide; we need to feel that we belong; we need to be able to get support, and just as important for happiness, to give support. We need many kinds of relationships; for one thing, we need friends.
A book is a better way to develop a complicated idea, or to tell a big story and to show how ideas weave in and out of each other, which is something that comes up a lot in happiness because all these ideas are interconnected.
I realize that in a happy life, making your bed should play a very small part, I don't know why this is so helpful to people getting started on a happiness project, but for some reason, making your bed - it's concrete, it's manageable. There's a big difference between having a bed that's unmade and a bed that's made. That little bit of outer order in people's lives seem to help them get started. So, that's a very small thing that you can do.
We can use decision-making to choose the habits we want to form, use willpower to get the habit started, then - and this is the best part - we can allow the extraordinary power of habit to take over. At that point, were free from the need to decide and the need to use willpower.
There are no do overs and some things just aren't going to happen. It is a little sad but you just have to embrace what is
Step by step, you make your way forward. That’s why practices such as daily writing exercises or keeping a daily blog can be so helpful. You see yourself do the work, which shows you that you can do the work. Progress is reassuring and inspiring; panic and then despair set in when you find yourself getting nothing done day after day. One of the painful ironies of work life is that the anxiety of procrastination often makes people even less likely to buckle down in the future.
You can choose what you do, you cant choose what you like to do.
I'm a creature of routine, and I hate feeling incompetent, so I avoided novelty and challenge. Making an effort to push myself in that way has brought me surprising boost.
In general, religious people seem to be happier than non-religious people - under various definitions of "religiosity," such as church attendance or professed spiritual beliefs.
Now is now. Here is my treasure.
I'm doing a lot of speaking and talking about habits, which is this subject that obsesses me. That's a lot of fun.
Reading makes me happy.
I've noticed that a lot of people do much better when all their resolutions are framed as 'Yes. ' Not something like, "I'm going to give up French Fries," but something like "I'm going to eat three vegetables every day. " "I'm going to hug more, kiss more, touch more. " "I'm going to listen to more music. " They do better when they frame things in the positive. And I think this is just part of human nature.