Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others. . . . If, however, we do not use our anger to define ourselves clearly in every important relationship we are in--and manage our feelings as they arise--no one else will assume this responsibility for us.
In tennis, it is not the opponent you fear, it is the failure itself, knowing how near you were but just out of reach.