I've been in situations where I was 'black boy white,' or 'white boy black. ' People didn't know, "Is he the whitest black person in the world or is he the blackest white person in the world?"
In tantra one does not seek experiences that most people would consider unspiritual and try to see truth in them. In tantra we don't try to guide our life in a specific way. We let the winds of existence blow us where they will.