Do what makes you happy, and don't care what others think.
To stop challenging someone from using anti-gay language simply because they persist in using anti-gay language strikes me as a defeatist approach.
Depression cannot be overcome by listing a series of good things in one's life, any more than a broken foot can be healed by thinking about all the other bones you have that aren't broken.
So many people choose silence after the immediate wake of a death out of fear of saying something out of turn or "bringing up bad memories" that bereaved people often feel forgotten.
Asexuality does not make our lives any worse or any better, we just face a different set of challenges than most sexual people.
It's so difficult to figure out how to offer support and also be honest with someone you love who's in a damaging relationship without making them feel defensive and retreating even further into isolation.
If your partner asks you if something bothers you, and something bothers you, the best thing you can do is say, "Yes, it bothers me. " Otherwise you create a situation where they think everything is fine, continue with the offending behavior, while you build up a secret reservoir of resentment that will eventually come pouring out, to their shock.
Best thing to happen for a poet. A fine death, no? An impressive death.
A lot of people run a race to see who is fastest. I run to see who has the most guts, who can punish himself into exhausting pace, and then at the end, punish himself even more.
There's a lot of skeletons in my closet, but I know what they're wearing. I'm not gonna act all ashamed of it.
Awareness in itself is healing.