I suppose society is wonderfully delightful. To be in it is merely a bore. But to be out of it is simply a tragedy.
Asexuality does not make our lives any worse or any better, we just face a different set of challenges than most sexual people.
Depression cannot be overcome by listing a series of good things in one's life, any more than a broken foot can be healed by thinking about all the other bones you have that aren't broken.
So many people choose silence after the immediate wake of a death out of fear of saying something out of turn or "bringing up bad memories" that bereaved people often feel forgotten.
It's so difficult to figure out how to offer support and also be honest with someone you love who's in a damaging relationship without making them feel defensive and retreating even further into isolation.
If your partner asks you if something bothers you, and something bothers you, the best thing you can do is say, "Yes, it bothers me. " Otherwise you create a situation where they think everything is fine, continue with the offending behavior, while you build up a secret reservoir of resentment that will eventually come pouring out, to their shock.
If this is something you'd truly like to work on, not out of a sense of guilt but because you would enjoy occasionally reciprocating, there are a wealth of resources out there for the enthusiastic amateur (you are far from the only would-be blow-jobber whose spirit is willing but gag reflex is weak). You have more options than "no blow jobs, ever" and "regular whole-hog sessions to completion that result in vomiting. "
Some men rob you with a six-gun -- others rob you with a fountain pen.
He won me over entirely by giving Himself entirely to me.
Young man, the games we play are lessons we learn. The assumptions we make, things we ignore, and things we change make us what we become.
Habits are formed, not at one stroke, but gradually and insensibly; so that, unless vigilant care be employed, a great change may come over the character without our being conscious of any.