Love sinners, but hate their deeds, and do not disdain sinners for their failings, so that you yourself do not fall into the temptation in which they abide. . . Do not be angry at anyone and do not hate anyone, neither for their faith, nor for their shameful deeds. . . Do not foster hatred for the sinner, for we are all guilty. . . Hate his sins, and pray for him, so that you may be made like unto Christ, who had no dislike for sinners, but prayed for them.
I learnt to stop fantasising about the perfect job or the perfect relationship because that can actually be an excuse for not living.