He is free knows how to keep in his own hands the power to decide.
Whatever we can’t hold, we hang on a hook that will hold it.
Empathy isn’t just listening, it’s asking the questions whose answers need to be listened to. Empathy requires inquiry as much as imagination. Empathy requires knowing you know nothing. Empathy means acknowledging a horizon of context that extends perpetually beyond what you can see.
Empathy isn’t just something that happens to us — a meteor shower of synapses firing across the brain — it’s also a choice we make: to pay attention, to extend ourselves.
No trauma has discrete edges. Trauma bleeds. Out of wounds and across boundaries.
I think of empathy as a set of cumulative effects, ideally - that it can be a force shaping your habits, shaping where you put your attention and then - if you're hard on yourself, in good ways - pushing you to translate that attention into action, on whatever scale.
The pain is what you make of it. You have to find something in it that yields. I understood my guiding imperative as: keep bleeding, but find some love in the blood.
Do not try to do everything. Do one thing well.
Most of the longer-term relationships I've known have been gay relationships. They seem to be able to hang out longer.
Okay, I don’t like it when you walk away from me, but other than that. . . (Arik) Yeah, I guess that makes sense. You transcend a dimension to come here and I brush you off. I can see where that might get annoying. (Geary)
Remakes are always a challenge and they always are sitting ducks.