The prince exults whomever he selects as his consort, but the queen, rather than elevating the subject of her choice, humiliates him as a man. By all that is right, a man is not intended to be the husband of his wife, but a woman is to be her husband's wife.
In general, I think, less is more, and that if a reader stops reading because a book is too icky then I've failed in my obligation to the readers.