My kids look actually happy. And I learned early on that perfectionism and parenthood is a toxic combination for everybody involved. In other words, so many things can flourish naturally. All you gotta do is make sure the soil's right. I view myself more like a guide than a ruler.
Boxing and chess are similar. Its about the choice of means. Sometimes I need a pawn, a bishop or a knight to defeat my opponent. Its about finding the best way. A good boxer has to be variable. He doesnt just need to know how to punch. He must also know how to protect himself, how to defend, how to avoid the opponents punches. Only a complete fighter can become champion.