There are three things we have to let go of. The first is the compulsion to be successful. Second, is the compulsion to be right-especially theologically right. (That's merely an ego trip, and because of this "need" churches split in half, with both parties prisoners of their own egos. ) Finally, there is the compulsion to be powerful, to have everything under control.
I think it's really important to treat yourself with respect because sometimes people can get down on themselves