The problem, thus, is not whether or not women are to combine marriage and motherhood with work or career but how they are to do so--concomitantly in a two-role continuous pattern or sequentially in a pattern involving job or career discontinuities.
I realize that in everything I was saying, that underneath my words was essentially, "why can't we be less judgemental and more like me. " Which is judgemental and arrogant, to try and change somebody else's perspective just so that the world can seem better for you. It's important that we have these contrasts in life - nothing was ever created by being the same.