No one starts out with the answers. You figure them out as you go and you learn from the people who figured them out before you.
The question you need to ask yourself is not if you will heal, but how you will heal.
In the face of uncertainty, there is nothing wrong with hope.
Healing is simply attempting to do more of those things that bring joy and fewer of those things that bring pain
When you're depressed, the whole body is depressed, and it translates to the cellular level. The first objective is to get your energy up, and you can do it through play. It's one of the most powerful ways of breaking up hopelessness and bringing energy into the situation.
Grief is like sinking, like being buried. I am in water the tawny color of kicked-up dirt. Every breath is full of choking. There is nothing to hold on to, no sides, no way to claw myself up. There is nothing to do but let go. Let go. Feel the weight all around you, feel the squeezing of your lungs, the slow, low pressure. Let yourself go deeper. There is nothing but bottom. There is nothing but the taste of metal, and the echoes of old things, and days that look like darkness.
I try to speak my points of view about black America, and how I feel about black men and the role that black men should play in their lives with their children and in their lives with their women.
I mean, what do you do in Las Vegas? You gamble - and you go to strip clubs.
How long before we white people get over our bitter resentments about being demoted to the status of equality with non-whites?. . . How long until we white people will stop insisting that blacks exercise personal responsibility, build strong families, educate themselves enough to edit the Harvard Law Review, and work hard enough to become President of the United States, only to threaten to assassinate them when they do?