The attractiveness that exists to man in the very helplessness of woman is scarcely realized.
People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.
The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.
People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.
When I started to get disillusioned with psychoanalysis I reread philosophy and was reminded of the constructivist notion that Epictetus had proposed 2,000 years ago: "People are disturbed not by events that happen to them, but by their view of them. " I could see how that applied to many of my clients.
There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.
You have considerable power to construct self-helping thoughts, feelings and actions as well as to construct self-defeating behaviors. You have the ability, if you use it, to choose healthy instead of unhealthy thinking, feeling and acting.
Divorce these days is a religious vow, as if the proper offspring of marriage.
In such doubtful matters, where you have to work as a pioneer, you must be able to put some trust in your intuition and follow your feeling even at the risk of going wrong.
Some preachers ought to put more fire into their sermons or more sermons into the fire.
They throw their clubs backwards, and that's wrong. You should always throw a club ahead of you so that you don't have to walk any extra distance to get it.