It used to be the one or the other, right? You were the bad girl or the good girl or the bad mother or the good mother, the horrible businesswoman who eschewed her children or the earth mother who was happy to be at home baking pies, all of that stuff that we sort of knew was a lie.
The greatness of an artist or a writer does not depend on what he has in common with other artists and writers, but on what he has peculiar to himself.