Steve Pavlina (born April 14, 1971) is an American self-help author, motivational speaker and entrepreneur. He is the author of the web site stevepavlina.com and the book Personal Development for Smart People.
I think the best friendships are those that can stand the test of time, where the friendship is based more on who you are than on what you do or what you have.
Side effect of overemphasizing the importance of personal security in your life is that it can cause you to live reactively.
Our beliefs act as lenses. These lenses can help us see things we can't otherwise see, but they can also block us from seeing parts of reality.
In reading the biographies of very successful men and women, one theme frequently surfaces: such people have a strong bias for action. Those who achieve high levels of success in some areas of life tend to take a LOT more action than those who settle for average or below average results.
Spiritual development requires the freedom to connect with different parts of reality in order to understand them more fully. The more you're able to explore, the more connections you can form, and the greater your spiritual growth will be. When you feel a strong desire to connect with something in your reality, listen to your intuitive guidance, and make the connection.
You are too free and untamable to be labeled.
Using passion as your only fuel will no more assure you of success than being in love will ensure a successful long-term relationship.
Thought and action can be perceived as two different dimensions of who you are: the mental you and the physical you
You must give before you can get.
Pour the bulk of your time into action, not deciding. The state of indecision is a major time waster. Don't spend more than 60 seconds in that state if you can avoid it. Make a firm, immediate decision, and move from uncertainty to certainty to action. Let the world tell you when you're wrong, and you'll soon build enough experience to make accurate, intelligent decisions.
Your beliefs about reality become your beliefs about yourself.
Thoughts are like seeds. If you want different results in life, you have to figure out which thoughts are capable of growing those results and which aren’t.
When you reach the point of becoming independent of external events, you’re truly free.
Separate yourself from your ideas and your work and see them as something separate from yourself, you’ll feel you truly have the right to be wrong. If an idea fails, why not let it be the idea’s fault instead of your own? Allow your ideas to fail without turning them into personal defeat. When you fail you discover your boundaries. You map out the edges of your capabilities. And this allows you to eventually move beyond them. Being wrong eventually leads to being right. And even where it doesn’t, it’s still a more interesting path than being nothing.
'Someday' is the day after you die.
We primarily grow as human beings by discovering new truths about ourselves and our reality.
Any relationships that would reject you for being true to yourself are - by definition - abusive relationships. You'll be much better off when you let them go.
The universe cannot show you anything which you've intentionally chosen to block from your reality.
Planning allows you to mentally create a model of your future.
Passion and purpose go hand in hand. When you discover your purpose, you will normally find it's something you're tremendously passionate about.