Friendship is that virtue by which spirits are bound by ties of love and sweetness and out of many are made one.
All that matters in life is forging deep ties of love and family and friends. Writing and reading come later.
We must remember when we speak of the "negativism" of the toddler that this is also the child who is intoxicated with the discoveries of the second year, a joyful child who is firmly bound to his parents and his new-found world through ties of love. The so-called negativism is one of the aspects of this development, but under ordinary circumstances it does not become anarchy. It's a kind of declaration of independence, but there is no intention to unseat the government.
I have a holistic need to work and to have huge ties of love in my life. I can't imagine eschewing one for the other.