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Ross W. Greene Biography

Ross W. Greene is an American clinical child psychologist, professor, and the author of the books The Explosive Child, Lost at School, Lost and Found, and Raising Human Beings. Greene developed the evidence-based model of intervention called "Collaborative & Proactive Solutions." He is also Creator and Executive Producer of the forthcoming documentary The Kids We Lose. He has a Ph.D. in clinical psychology.

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Solutions can't be imposed. That just fosters resentment.

Fosters, Imposed, Resentment, Solutions

My advice to educators is collaborate with parents; they know a lot about their kids.

Advice, Collaborate, Kids, Know, Parent

People still look askance at a kid in the supermarket who's pitching a fit and think the parent is not sufficiently in control or not being sufficiently punitive. That's an issue for a lot of parents as well.

Kids, Thinking, Issues, Fit, Issue, Sufficiently

It's a whole lot more productive to be in problem-solving mode than it is to be in behavior modification mode.

Behavior, Modification, Problem, Whole

People don't scream or swear or pout or sulk when there's compatibility. But most growth occurs when there's incompatibility. When it comes to resilience, when it comes to pulling yourself up when you've fallen down, you don't learn those things when things are going well. You learn those things when you're struggling.

Down, Growth, People, Struggle, Struggling, Things

It's so crucial to really get a good handle on what's getting in the way of the kid completing a homework assignment. It can be so many things.

Assignment, Good, Handle, Homework, Kids, Way

A lot of parents aren't exactly sure how to go about solving a problem with a kid in a way that's mutually satisfactory - doing that with their child feels very foreign to a lot of people. It probably explains why so many parents tell me their kids don't listen to them and why so many kids tell me that they don't feel heard.

Children, Kid, Kids, Parents, People, Tell

We never get to see that our kid is capable of solving problems on her own. We never start to build up the faith that they can actually do it.

Capable, Kids, Problem, Problem Solving, Problems, See

School is very demanding these days.

Days, Demanding, School, These Days

Be your kid's collaborative partner, but also be a collaborative partner with the folks at school. Schools can be pretty unilateral too. Show them you know how to collaborate. Show them this is not about power. Let them know detentions and suspensions and paddling don't solve the problems that are affecting kids' lives. Those problems can be identified and solved but not by being punitive.

Identified, Kids, Know, Paddling, Problems, School

Kids are overprogrammed these days.

Days, Kids, Overprogrammed, These Days

Being completely in control is a fantasy.

Completely, Control, Fantasy

The idea that we can take this lump of clay and mold it into a form of our choosing is absolutely ludicrous.

Clay, Ideas, Lump, Mold, Take

You want to teach all kids the skills that are on the better side of human nature: empathy, appreciating how one's behavior is affecting other people, resolving disagreements in ways that do not involve conflict, taking another's perspective, honesty.

Appreciating, Honesty, Human, Kids, Skills, Teach

You're your kid's partner, not the person who's pulling all the strings.

Kids, Partner, Partners, Pulling, Strings

There is still quite the vibe out there that as a parent you have to be completely in control and in charge.

Charge, Completely, Parent, Stills, Vibe

If we're sitting at dinner and there's no conversation going on because everybody's got their head someplace else in their iPhone, that's a family problem that needs to be solved.

Conversation, Iphone, Needs, Sitting, Solved

For a very long time, people have been saying to me, "What if you want to do this approach with every kid?" For a behaviorally challenging kid, you're parenting this way just to help bring the kid's behavior under control and to greatly reduce conflict. But you want to teach all kids the skills that are on the better side of human nature: empathy, appreciating how one's behavior is affecting other people, resolving disagreements in ways that do not involve conflict, taking another's perspective, honesty.

Honesty, Involve, Kids, Long

Parents are much more likely to be attuned to what they don't like than they are to the expectations that the kid is having difficulty meeting.

Expectations, Having, Kids, Like, Likely, Parent

We have forgotten that those skills on the more positive side of human nature have to be taught, have to be modeled, have to be practiced.

Human, Modeled, Practiced, Sides, Skills, Taught

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