Sexuality shouldn't define you. It should be part of who you are.
How YOU see yourself - not anyone else - is the thing that defines you.
You can't avoid pain in life. It's how you handle pain, that's what defines you.
Don't let your failures define you.
Let your failures refine you, not define you.
Either define the moment or the moment will define you.
Your commitments can develop you or destroy you, but either way, they will define you.