You learn to accept your own reality
I feel that when we really love and accept and approve of ourselves exactly as we are, then everything in life works.
Accepting that the odds are against you is the same as accepting defeat before you begin.
Don't say this is good and that is bad. Drop all discrimination. Accept everything as it is.
But egoism is more than this. It is the realization by the individual that he is above all institutions and all formulas; that they exist only so far as he chooses to make them his own by accepting them.