Timothy Agoglia Carey (March 11, 1929 – May 11, 1994) was an American film and television character actor. Carey was best known for portraying manic or violent characters who are driven to extremes.
There is no one best way for parents to become the parents they want to be just as there is no one best way for a child to grow into a contented and contributing member of society.
Sometimes offering support and making yourself available when the child or adolescent is ready to talk can be the most helpful you can be.
Attitudes of optimism, of "let them be", and of joy in watching and helping another life develop and blossom will help parents relish their parenting role and will provide the resilience necessary to navigate turbulent times.
One of the premises of parenting might be that the job of parents is to teach their kids to get along without them.
I always thought if you really want to be a good actor, you've got to be able to fart in public. That, to me, is the most important. If you are so inhibited that you can't fart, I don't mean around your friends, I mean just a fart, out loud somewhere. I don't mean the 'silent creeper', everybody does that. I mean fart out loud! Just that you can do it and not be afraid of it. Humility is very important.
The best way for parents to go about acquiring a mind-set of self-reflective parenting will be different for different individuals. Some people will find that they are already very close to being the parent they are striving to be. Other people will find reading books or blog articles to be very helpful and some other people might benefit most by engaging in discussions on the internet.
When a child or adolescent is troubled, the most important thing for the parent to focus on may very well be their relationship with their child or adolescent. Parents need to do whatever they can to make sure the relationship is strong.
A parenting program should focus on parent's attitudes to themselves, their children, and the relationships they are building with their children.
I can’t even take a stroll through a park. As soon as women see my face they start gathering up their children and running for home.
Somewhat paradoxically, parenting programs should focus on the behavior of the parents not the behavior of the children.
Accessing a "professional listener" such as a psychologist or counselor can be useful if the loved one wants to use this form of support.
A parenting program should provide time for parents to clarify their own ideas about what it means to be an effective and successful parent.
People need to feel safe to talk without their ideas being criticized, judged, demeaned, or mocked.
One of the most important goals to have may well be the goal to create the life you want without preventing other people from creating the life they want.
Demonstrating faith and optimism in the child or adolescent's ability to work things out in their own time and in their own way can be very difficult but it is possible to do this while also offering assistance.
Parents typically don't talk to each other about their goals and attitudes to parenting but this type of conversation could be very useful for helping parents become clearer about the things that are important to them.