Most people believe they know what it is that would make them happy, and what it is that they should get rid of in order to be happy. Unfortunately, few actually do.
Most likely, when you are upset for any reason, it is rare that you will want to quickly see the real cause of your upset or the solution, but with practice you can begin to ask yourself honestly, is it the personsituation or is it my unforgiving thoughts about this person and the past that are upsetting me?
When we combine acceptance with self-responsibility we can then see that whenever we are in a painful or disturbing situation we have two choices: We can work compassionately to bring something positive to the situation or leave. However, the key is the mental stance that we make the choice from, and thus the first step is always accepting the moment without resistance.
Forgiveness is essential to health, growth, and healing.
What if nothing needs to change other than our perception of what we see?
If you believe you are an effect of the world around you - that your happiness is dependent on this thing or that person - then you are always going to be a victim of circumstance to one degree or another.
The paradox of acceptance: When our mind becomes less attached and dependent on things being a certain way our happiness in life dramatically improves.
Many people live in a self-imposed prison and don't even know it.
The core of who you are, your true nature, is Love.
How important is it really that you feel satisfied right now for 2 minutes, compared to getting yourself free from addiction forever?
You can learn to direct yourself to be peaceful inside regardless of what is happening with your body.
Inspirational Psychology includes the practical application of identifying the thoughts and mistaken beliefs that cause us pain, along with a contemplative practice to discover our true nature, which is Love.
What many fail to realize is that being attached to what we think we want and don't have while resisting what is happening in the moment is the cause, not the cure, of much personal suffering and interpersonal conflict.
There is never a circumstance, no matter how catastrophic, that also does not hold within it an opportunity to better things, to better yourself. Every moment brings with it an opportunity to love, to forgive, to grow beyond your shortcomings.
Essentially, what the most important questions we can ever ask ourselves are, "Who am I? Who are we all? What do we share, and what is our purpose here? How do we discover meaning?" Addressing these questions is the core of Inspirational Psychology.
One of the most liberating personal discoveries I have made is the knowledge that whenever I am upset, there is another way of looking at any situation, person, or condition.
No matter how sick your body is, extending Love will reduce your suffering and aid in healing.
For years I was so busy building walls I did not see I was imprisoning myself behind them, and did not recognize this pattern as being addiction. My addictive thinking and behavior became the bars of my cell. Denying feeling empty inside, I constantly looked for new things to acquire, people to be around, substances to take, and new goals to achieve in order to feel better about myself. Over the last four decades I have focused on healing my addictive mind and helping others do the same.
The roots of addiction can be seen in our search for happiness in something outside of our self, be it drugs, relationships, material possessions.
You can learn from your health challenge what is most important and become a better human being.