Katy Butler (born 1949) is an American journalist, essayist and author of The Lost Art of Dying (Simon & Schuster, 2018) and Knocking on Heaven's Door, the Path to a Better Way of Death, (Scribner, 2013).
To do more, is not necessarily to do better.
I've heard doctors say that before the crisis hits, people don't want prolonged measures, but then in the middle of the crisis they want everything.
Almost anyone you talk to will say, 'I don't want to die plugged into machines.
Three-quarters of people say they want to die at home, but only a quarter of people actually do.
I want people to suffer less, and I think it's possible.
I think it's very interesting that [doctors] privilege the self that is saying, "I don't want to die," but want to discount the self that said, "I want to allow natural death in such a situation. "
I want to break the taboo against questioning this drive for maximum longevity.
Attempting to grapple with improving end-of-life care is a political third rail.
Let's spend less on trying to fix the unfixable in the last five years of life and spend more supporting people so that they can stay the least disabled as they possibly can, the most independent as they possibly can, and keep them at home.
Very few of us are succeeding in giving our parents the ideal death.
I don't think people ever were free of fear of death, but clinging to life and being so unprepared for it is a modern experience.
We offer such false hopes to people that every medical problem can be fixed even when you're starting to deal with an 80- or a 90-year-old body that is breaking down in multiple ways and doesn't have that resilience. And so it doesn't surprise me that someone who is completely unprepared for death may say, "Doc, do everything. "