The music is supposed to be healing.
Really, for me, it's important to know who's pitching and who's catching - just what that scene is supposed to accomplish in terms of storytelling. That being said, on the day, basically what you're trying to get yourself into an open place. And if the character is in a state of anxiety or vulnerability, you try to find some touchstone.
There's no adventure in knowing the outcome of who you're supposed to be with.
And what if---what are you if the people who are supposed to love you can leave you like you're nothing?