Cheri Huber (born c. 1944) is an American meditation teacher in the Sōtō School of Zen Buddhism tradition.
If you had a person in your life treating you the way you treat yourself, you would have gotten rid of them a long time ago.
Fear forces us to spend our lives dealing with it, ostensibly to overcome it. But that is a trick. Only fear (the illusion of separation) would want us to work to be unafraid, precisely because it is not possible for a separate self to be unafraid!
If you want to know what you were conditioned to believe as a child, look at how you treat yourself now.
Breathe in a smile; breathe out a chuckle. (You can do it. )
When we make decisions, about eating or anything else, with an attitude of kindness and acceptance toward ourselves, with awareness of what is involved in our choices, the conflict between deprivation and indulgence ceases to exist.
When you're experiencing peace, it's coming from within you; you're 'doing' peace and this is true of anything else you might be looking for. Love, happiness, contentment, well-being come from within. Nothing external needs to change for you to have what you want. . . . . If you want to be happier - be happier. If you want to be more relaxed - relax. If you want more friends - be friendly. Sounds simple. It is.
It takes a tremendous act of courage to admit to yourself that you are not defective in any way whatsoever.
We have a choice. We can love our lives trying to conform to some nebulous standard, or we can live our lives seeing how everything works. When we step back and look at it that way, it is obvious that the attitude of fascination is the only intelligent one to bring to anything.
Do something you fear, NOT to conquer the fear, NOT to accomplish a task, but to familiarize yourself with the processes with which fear protects itself, to demystify it.
All you must do is accecpt all that is unaccecptable to you.
That love of the practice of ending suffering will probably be all of the awakening that you would ever desire.
What we do about our feelings determines the quality of our relationship with ourselves.
Here is my wish for you and every other child, woman, and man on the face of the earth: Spend one week saying only kind, caring things to yourself. Say thank you at least ten times an hour, direct five toward yourself and five to the world at large. Compliment yourself (and others) each time an effort is made. Notice all the wonderful qualities and characteristics about yourself and those around you. One week. You will never go back. And your whole life will be a glorious meditation.
An essential part of seeing clearly is finding the willingness to look closely and to go beyond our own ideas.
Getting where you want to be has everything to do with awareness, and nothing to do with willpower.
When you stop comparing what is right here and now with what you wish were, you can begin to enjoy what is.
Going in the wrong direction but making really good time
Feeling bad is not a requirement; it’s something we agree to. Cut it loose!
If you want to feel a certain way, feel it now.
A person who is without fear cannot be controlled.