Sometimes when we're feeling sad, it's important just to feel the sadness. Like a snake shedding its skin, old feelings of remorse and regret and hurt and anger often have to come up in order to be released. On the other side we're a better person, capable of a happier life. . . who we are when we're no longer burdened by the buried feelings that weighed us down, or the self - defeating patterns that the pain produced.
I was like, 'What is this?' Until I found out it was stress related. That's how I internalized it. I don't do that anymore. My favorite saying in the world is, 'The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are. ' I am telling you, I have spent so much of my life not feeling comfortable in my skin. I am just so not there anymore.
I don't want to grow a thick skin. Some people say, "Oh, you're an actress, you have to get used to criticism. " But I don't accept that. I'll never get used to criticism, and I'll always care about whether or not people like my performances - because I'm an entertainer, and I want to please.
My dear brother Barack Obama has a certain fear of free black men. As a young brother who grows up in a white context, brilliant African father, he's always had to fear being a white man with black skin. All he has known culturally is white. He has a certain rootlessness, a deracination.