Suppose someone were to say: 'Imagine this butterfly exactly as it is, but ugly instead of beautiful'?!
She was not quite what you would call refined. She was not quite what you would call unrefined. She was the kind of person that keeps a parrot.
So, what I am learning to do is (to) learn each of their personalities - to study them, to learn how their natural bent is. Is it toward intellectualism. Is it toward athletics? Toward humor? Ministry? What makes each of them tick? And can I help them blossom in their areas of strength and win their hearts in doing so? So, that's one challenge in doing that.